BIGBADDAD

First of all...Sorry for the repeat post, but it is a little different now, what started out as a lunge when you drop it into gear, is getting worse by the day...now even when it is shifting you can feel the whole car rock back and forth, it happens when it shifts up, and when it shifts down. I had it on the rack last night, and put a wrench on everything, I pryed every mount trying to see if it was broken...Nothing, what I did find was two of the bolts (on the same side) of the cross member that hold the trans mount were stripped, and just pushed in there, I replaced them, also I noticed that the fwd, and aft drive shaft bushings have tears in them, not serious, but they are there, I also pryed on the trans mount, it is in tact but very soft, I can move it all over the place. To the best of my ability I check the motor mounts, I put a trans lift under the oil pan and picked the engine up, they went up a good 1 1/2" but looked intact. I checked the rear end mounts they look good...It is to the point that my wife will not drive the car any more. I could really use some more help.
Thank you.
Mark